....it's okay to ask for help when you need it!

In my life journey, I've stopped listening to anyone who tells me to be strong....and I've stopped telling people to be strong. 

It's very okay to show emotions. 

It's very okay to cry if you need to.

It's very okay to feel like giving up.

It's very okay to just want to curl up under the sheets!

Take all the time you need to heal. 

A wound that never heals is an ulcer.

A wound takes time to heal under a scab....hidden away from the elements.
It's okay to get away from the elements to heal properly.

A wound has a period where it bleeds and hurts. All this is necessary for it to heal properly!
It's okay for you to cry and hurt. You mustn't put up a strong front. It's not a weakness biko.


Don't be so strong that you begin to shatter.


Don't become so strong that you become a statue of your pain.

Don't be so strong that you forget how to be kind, soft, gentle, graceful and vulnerable.


Don't be so strong that you become apathetic.

Don't be so strong that you can't be flexible and open to new experiences.

Remember the stronger the coffee, the more bitter it becomes!!!☕



Deuteronomy 31:6 

Matthew 6:27

 Luke 12:29


💦 Tell us, do you always feel strong? Do you feel bad for feeling 'weak'?

Here's my chilled zobo (hibiscus) drink infused with pineapple because.....I don't like soda...icecream or beer.🙄🙄🙄

I'm the weird woman at a party who prefers to drink plain water.

How do I tell my host that I don't drink Coke, Fanta, Sprite etc. ?

How do I tell my host that I'd rather take fresh fruits, fresh juice or yoghurt?

How do I tell my host that it has nothing to do with watching my weight as my host looks up and down my slender frame?

🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️Quick question: 

Is it only when one wants to lose weight that a person tries to eat healthy??? 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

What's the random fact about you that people find puzzling?

You don't stop laughing because you grow older, you grow older because you stop laughing!😁😁😁

An optimist laughs to forget; a pessimist forgets to laugh....and a 

well-balanced person is one who finds both sides of an issue laughable. 🙂🙂🙂🙂

No matter what life throws at you, don't forget to stop laughing....and being grateful always gives one a reason to keep laughing. 

Give thanks for all the small things, big things and everything in between.

. 🍃P.S. You can start with giving thanks for your shrinkage because it means your hair is healthy!🍃

💋: By TopfaceNigeria and lipgloss by Victoria Secret (I don't like matte lips)

Happy New Month guys! 

Sorry I haven't been posting in a while!

I've been more active on Instagram though so try follow me there so you don't miss out on any natural hair or skincare tips!

Take a leap of faith and begin this wondrous new year by believing. Believe in yourself. 

And believe that there is a loving Source—a Sower of Dreams—just waiting to be asked to help you make your dreams come true.

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Jesus, we made it!!!

Happy New Year everyone!!!

😀😁💃💃💃💃💃💃💕💖💖 

I've not been very active on the blog of late but you can always find me on Instagram!

Click here to view all my recent updates!!!

I use this for my everyday makeup look. 

The brownish color goes over my eyelids to crease, the reddish color goes into my crease to warm up my eyes and the gold goes into inner corners of my eyes and a little on my brow bone.

Eyesome Beauty Glueless Glitter Eyeshadow Quad

I went for a makeup fair in Enugu with the Head Makeup artist for SleekBeauty Studio, Awka. I was really out of my depth in the makeup field. Seriously, I didn't even know where to start!

Fena advised me to get this quad to glam up my eyes for weddings and major events. She sold me on how easy it will be to use and how I didn't even need glitter glue. Just apply and go.

She was right!!!

Fashion Fair Eyeshadow Quad in Amalfi Coast

An eyeshadow quad that I can use to create a smokey look for the evenings.
That green is perfect for eyeliner!

The sort of nude look I tend to favor!

What eyeshadows are you currently using and loving?

Skincare

Makeup!

I won't kid myself.....my basic everyday makeup is just that....basic! 

Health!

Haircare!

Hi people, what's been on?

So, after years of thinking about it, I finally got two tattoos!

Henna tattoos, y'all!

 Yep, the henna we use to strengthen and impart colour to our hair!!!

It's a temporary and painless way of getting body art done.

 In Nigeria, we know it commonly as "Lalle" and it is very popular with Northern Nigerian brides to beautify their hands and feet.

 I also learnt that in Igboland, body art was commonly known as "uli" and was done to beautify Igbo brides too. 

Henna is also used by the Yorubas and when I asked if there was a different name for it, I was told it's also recognized as "Lalle".

The patterns done differ from tribe to tribe.

I'd been looking for a good henna artist who won't "draw spoil"! I came across a very talented artist at my friend's. She's an optometrist by profession but a henna artist on the side.

 I had seen the tattoo she had done for one lady and as an optometrist, she certainly has a good eye for detail!

So I booked an appointment and my friends and I had a "tattoo party" of some sort.

Here's what I got...

The henna tattoos lasted two weeks before fading out. The one on my wrist faded out earlier. I think my hair conditioner had something to do with it.

The henna on my nails is still on as I write.

I love the beautiful effect of two-toned nails it creates as my nails grow longer. 

My nails were stronger too and broke off less.

P.S. If you're G6PD deficient, are allergic to paraphenylenediamine or have ever had sensitivity to dyes, please don't use.

Henna is not naturally black so additives such as PPD are used for black henna.

If you're interested, you can find the henna artist on Instagram via @omeira_sanguine. She's currently in Lagos.

What does 'GOING GREEN' mean?

According to Wikipedia, 

Going Green a.k.a. Environmentalism advocates the preservation, restoration and or improvement of the natural environment, and may be referred to as a movement to control pollution or protect plant and animal diversity.
It is an attempt to balance relations between humans and the various natural systems on which they depend in such a way that all the components are accorded a proper degree of sustainability. Environmentalism and environmental concerns are often represented by the color 'green'....hence 'going green'.

The concept of going green is very broad and there are many things we can do to contribute to reducing environmental degradation caused by our activities.

Some of these include:
- Recycling items
- Using fuel efficient vehicles that emit low carbon
- Reducing water waste
- Planting trees and gardens to provide us with organic food so we don't have to depend on processed foods. The production processes of these processed foods create waste products that are harmful to the environment.
- Making use of organic more eco-friendly natural products rather than chemical filled ones.
.....and so forth.

I could go on and on but since this is a natural hair and skin care blog, it'll be interesting to know how we can contribute to protecting our environment when it comes to our hair care and skin care choices.



Okay...so going natural is a way to go green right?!
Yes and no!👀

YES because you're reducing environmental pollution by using more natural products. For example, natural hair prefers oils and butters such as olive oil, jojoba oil and Shea butter to inorganic oils such as mineral oils, petrolatum and silicones. When these are washed off your hair on wash day, they would more likely be degraded by soil microorganisms easily to simple harmless and useful waste products than the mineral oil, petrolatum and silicones which in a way 'clogs up the soil in the same way they clog up your pores'!
Good going, right?!👌

Well, there's the.....NO!
We know on wash day, naturals use up a lot of water.....which equals water waste.....which isn't helping our environment.
Not only that, many of the manufactured natural hair products we use (and we use up a lot).....are....let's be honest...not completely natural.
Yes, they may scream "organic olive oil" on the bottle but if you read the product ingredient list, the "organic olive oil" is drowned by a host of hard to pronounce chemical names! Many companies keep claiming to be organic or use eco-friendly ingredients when they don't. It's not really like they lied but it might be the 'one drop rule'! One drop of organic oil makes the whole bottle of chemical rubbish an "organic product".👾

Green washing of so called 'organic' products Source: here

Which begs the question , 'What exactly does natural mean?'😖

 When we say natural, we most likely want to say 'naturally derived'. This term means that the ingredient comes from or is made from a renewable resource found in nature. This nicely excludes petroleum compounds such as mineral oil, petrolatum, etc.

We all know that some useful products cannot be used directly in its raw form....for example there is a difference between that nice, light, milky shea butter lotion and raw shea butter! You also cannot use raw shea butter as shampoo unless you mix it with some 'chemical' alkali to make the popular black soap.

This is where the term "naturally-processed' comes in. This means that the "naturally-derived' ingredient was processed using ecologically friendly processes. These processes try to preserve as much as possible, all the good stuff within that natural ingredient.
These processes include,
-steam distillation
-condensation
-hydrolysis
-pressure cooking
- biofermentation
- saponification etc.
Most times biodegradable reagents are used. Biodegradable meaning that these reagents can be broken down easily by microbes in the environment. These processes try to maximise the purity of the ingredients while minimising the change in the composition of an ingredient to the point it becomes 'unnatural'.

Some processes that could 'make the natural unnatural' include,
- ethoxylation
-polymerization
-sulfonation etc
  (let me stop here before it gets too high school chemistry!!!) 😌

Basically, the end products of these processes do not break down easily in the environment...hence, another term 'environmentally-unfriendly'.

An ingredient can be 'naturally derived' but not 'naturally processed' and therefore will not be classified as being natural. One example is sodium lauryl/laureth sulfate (SLS)!
SLS is actually derived from coconut oil!!You didn't see this coming, did you?
 However, because the coconut oil is ethoxylated and sulfonated (😁abeg, just ride with me o)....it gives rise to a product i.e. sulfates, that do not break down easily in the environment (environmentally unfriendly).

Using a completely, 100% natural product means goodbye to your favorite soaps, shampoo, lotions, gels, curl definers with awesome fragrances etc because not only do the natural ingredients in them have to be processed, they also have to be preserved and right now, most effective preservatives are still chemicals.

This bring us to the concept of 'safety'. Safety means that the ingredients used in the products do not cause irritation or threaten the health status of the consumer. For the environment, safety means the product do not cause harm to the flora, fauna, environment in any way....think biodegradable. Also remember, natural doesn't mean safe. Snake poison is natural...

So yeah, when you say you want a 'natural' product, what you really mean is, you want a product that is 'naturally derived, naturally processed, biodegradable, environmentally friendly and safe'.

A list of ingredients/products that fit the above description will be nice....yes???? Don't worry, it is my side hustle...will share once I'm done....subscribe so you don't miss it and have to go looking through a thousand posts to find it! 

While we are waiting for that list, what other ways can you go green with your natural hair care?


Here are some suggestions...

1. REDUCE WATER USE:

- Try reducing the number of steps it takes to wash your hair.
 
- Reduce the quantity of shampoo you use especially the foamy poos because you'll need more water to rinse it off!

- Try using leave in conditioners instead of rinse out conditioners for your hair.

- Try to reduce the frequency of washing your hair.

- Reduce the amount of products you use on your hair. This way there's less product buildup and you'll use less water trying to wash your hair.

- You don't need to wash and go everyday to revive your curls. Simply spritzing with water can help rehydrate your curls.
These tips are not only good for your hair (no stripping of moisture) but also good for the environment (less water wasted).

2. REDUCE POWER USE

Source: here

-We use up a lot of power...electricity...when blow drying our mane of hair or when sitting under the dryer/steamer or when flat ironing our hair. Since we have a lot of hair, we spend more time than our relaxed sisters when using these heat appliances!
Reduce the frequency of blow drying your natural hair. Air Drying is not only "greener" but a healthier option for your natural hair.

- Reduce the frequency of heat styling with hair straightener, tongs, heated rollers and electric steamers.
Use heatless methods such as Bantu knotting,twisting, threading, straw sets, bendy roller sets, magnetic rollers and silk rollers to mention a few.
In place of steamers for deep conditioning, the good ole baggying will suffice!

- You don't really need hot water to wash your hair. Not only is it stripping and drying to your natural hair, it increases your heating bills.

3. USE ECO-FRIENDLY NATURAL HAIR PRODUCTS

It is easier to degrade natural waste (to useful products that can be used by plants to grow) than inorganic chemical products that are not found naturally in the environment.
Not only is using natural products safer and healthier for you (by reducing your exposure to possibly carcinogenic products), it's safer for the environment as well.

Some companies are helping out by producing natural hair products that are:-
- Paraben free (parabens are chemical preservatives)
- Phthalate free
- Sulfate free
- Mineral oil and petroleum free
- Silicone free (especially non biodegradable silicones)
- Made of naturally sourced ingredients
- Artificial fragrance free

Rule of the thumb for choosing eco friendly hair products is "the less chemical names there are and the more natural ingredients there are (especially in the first ten ingredients), the better."
I agree that some of these products may be a bit pricier than their chemical filled counterparts but they are better for your natural hair, your health and the environment too!

I really really have a lot to say on this topic but trying hard to avoid information overload...so, if you want to discuss more on the subject, send me a mail on nappilynigeriangirl@gmail.com.

Do you have more suggestions on how to go green with our hair and skincare?
Do you have eco-friendly hair care products to recommend that can easily be purchased in Nigeria?
Pls share with us in the comments section!
Do you have any thoughts with regards to the "green movement"?

Till I spill again,
Live Beautifully. Naturally.
Hadassah

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